A Single Life Advice (more like ranting about single people complaints)

I may not be old enough to give marriage advice, but I am totally capable of giving single life advice. I got married when I was 28,5 years old. And I have only one advice: ENJOY!

I have seen too many single ladies and men desperately wait for the right persons to come. They pass day by day thinking when will my soulmate come. They forgot to enjoy the day, as a single. Some says "I have enough single life, I wana get married". Well, I am telling you, you never have enough single life!

If I could, I wana slap every single men and women who thinks that life is boring without a partner to share with. Yep, I wana slap them on the face and say: Wake up, life is boring because of you! You bore yourself and you know what? You bore the whole world! That's why your perfect soulmate, even when he or she is around, perhaps won't notice you. Perhaps thinks you're a boring person hence, why you?! Why does he or she wants to spend the rest of his/her life with a boring person like you?!

living a single life is so exciting, so adventurous, so contemplative, so romantic. Yes, romantic. Because life is between you, yourself and God. Once you get intimate with yourself, once you can enjoy the solitude with God, you'll feel it.. You'll feel the greatness of being a single person.

Travel the world, do crazy things, challenge your self, cross the lines once in a while, fill your self with adrenaline. You are 20ies/30ies, you can do anything you want, you earn money, you have no dependent, you are burden-less mature person! You are on top of your life. Who needs a soulmate?! The soulmate is you!

And if you are stuck in a lousy relationship, end it. Lousy relationship means either one of you or both of you are not ready to be in the relationship. Well, when you are so in love, then you are doomed. You are stuck and you can't use the rationale to end it. Then I'd say congratulation on wasting your time. I hope it's worth the sacrafice.

When the right person comes you will know it. And when it happens, your life will change forever. Many people say it's for the better. I say many of them lie. It's not always for the better. Marriage means reconciliation of who you are, the life you live in and even the future you want to be in. And without knowing who you are, without spending enough time with your self now, you'll be doomed in a marriage. Simply because you don't know how and what to tolerate, how and what to reconcile. You'll be lost in a relationship and that sucks! Not only you feel like you don't get the company you wish from your partner, but also you don't provide the company your partner wish to have.

So spend enough time with your self, enjoy the relationship. Loving yourself is loving God. Like that, you'll glow, you'll shine and you'll dazzle people. By people I mean including your soulmate, even the soulmate of other people haha. They'll come to you before you know it.

Really, desperation waste your time, your potency, it waste your self. And you, your self, deserve better. Love your self truly for who you are and who you want to be, before you try to love anybody else :)

Mulia

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Dua hal terbaik dari Menikah

Dua hal terbaik yang di dapat dari menikah (so far);

1) Punya orang yang dipercaya dan dicinta layaknya keluarga dekat, tapi asik dan nyambung layaknya sahabat. Sesayang2 nya kita ke sahabat, kalau disuruh milih biasanya kita utamakan keluarga. Dan se dekat2 nya kita sama keluarga, pasti ada banyak hal yang cuma bisa kita bagi sama sahabat. Menikah adalah meresmikan sahabat kita menjadi keluarga terdekat. Atau menjadikan keluarga terdekat kita sahabat. It makes us feel so.. Homy, accepted and .. Peaceful :)

2) Punya orang yang dijadikan curahan pikiran dan perasaan dalam kondisi apapun. Terutama saat pulang kerja atau baru melewati suatu kejadian, bertemu pasangan rasanya seperti pulang ke sanctuary. Perasaan jadi lbh lega, dilindungi dan ringan beban.

Menikahlah dengan orang yang tepat di saat yang tepat :)

Mulia

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Fastest Internet Connection in Phnom Penh so far: Hotel Cambodiana

Coffee shops like Brown or Gloria Jeans have fairly fast internet connection, but they got crowded overtime. I highly recommend Hotel cambodiana for those who' need fast internet connection. I tried the wifi at the hotel lobby and the download speed as probably as fast as Europe’s internet connection. The drawback: 1. no working table, only couches and small short cafe tables, 2. coffees are rather expensive and taste so-so. Addy is below:

313 Sisowath Quay, Phnom Penh, Kingdom of Cambodia
Tel: 855-23 426 288 / 855-23 218 189 | Fax: 855-23 217 059
www.hotelcambodiana.com.kh | info@hotelcambodiana.com.kh

‘Solving’ folder and file duplicate problems in Google Docs

For those of you using third party apps with Google Docs, you would realize how common the folder duplication problem is. All (if not most) third party apps delivering sync service to google docs is suffering from such duplication issue.

This is true for syndocs (see discussion here), gladinet, insync and the rest other. The problem appears to rests on the conversion from folder structure into ‘collection’ in google docs.

Unfortunately there is no direct way to completely solve this problem until google itself handle such situation. Thus, if you want to keep using google docs with such third party apps, then you will have to backup everything in GDocs without its folders. This scenario may also be useful for those whose google docs are no longer usable due to hundreds or maybe thousands of folder duplications. These folders are often without content.

My solution is to clean up my google docs from such empty duplicate folders. For this, we will need three tools:

1. The Remove Empty Directories software

2. Insync and,

3. Teracopy

Step 1:
Sync everything inside your google docs with Insync (you have to install insync if it’s not already installed). It will take some hours if you have large files. But don’t wait until its over, because the folders will keep reduplicating itself. When you think you have enough files, go to step 2 below.

Step 2:
Use Teracopy to move the all the files to the insync root folder on your computer.

Step 3:
What remains in your non root folders are empty folders which are the result of google docs self duplication issue and those which content has been removed by you to the root folder using teracopy. Now, delete those empty folders using the “Remove Empty Directories” software.

Step 4
Keep repeating the above steps until all folders are moved to the root folder and empty folders are cleared. In the end, you will have a workable google docs (which you can sync using Insync) but without any “collection” category. From my experience, there are no more file or folder duplication issue at this stage, your sync will proceed flawlessly no matter how many files you sync. 

Warning!
Do this at your own risk. Backup everything first before proceeding.

The PhD Cake Remain..

Dalam setiap kehidupan, ada high and low. Anggap saja, waktu saya mesen kueh ini, saya lagi di low point of my life hehehe. Setidaknya, dalam low point pun, saya masih punya rasa humor kan ;)

Dan waktu saya kirim foto kueh ini ke teman yang lagi PhD juga, dia malah kirim balik email terimakasih dengan quote:

"There are only 2 happy days in the PhD process. The first one is when you are offered the position as a PhD student, and the second is when you hand in your thesis. The rest of the time is miserable."
I had a good laugh on that one :))

Today, we'll finish this cake. Mova tidak terlalu suka kueh beginian, dia sukanya kuwaci. Saat dia ulang tahun nanti, saya pikir-pikir kueh ulang tahun nya harus berlapis kuwaci yang banyak, supaya dia mau makan. Lol

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Decide More, Regret Less

"Maybe kuncinya satu kali ya…make decision…everything ada trade off nya…once decided, jalanin dengan sesenang mungkin….kalau ternyata ada salahnya decision itu, ya ga usah disesali, assess ulang, dan decide lagi mau ngapain"

Ini copy paste dari email Bang Handry buat saya. Tepat sasaran. Karena saya tipe indecisive untuk beberapa hal. Misalnya, saat milih menu di restoran, adalah saat-saat menyiksa bagi saya. Karena saya tidak suka membuat pilihan. Keberadaan Mova, temen kerja, atau bahkan pelayan, selalu jadi andalan. If I have to decide what meal do I want to have for lunch/dinner, it'll take a while, a stresful while for me :)

Dalam hal pilihan hidup.. Saya lumayan decisive sih. Sayangnya, saya adalah regretful person. Saya sering menyesali hal-hal di masa lalu atau simply keputusan yang barusan diambil. Semakin saya berusaha untuk berubah, kayaknya semakin banyak menyesal hehe. So what I try to do now is to be honest to my self. Kalo oon ya oon, kalo nyesel ya nyesel. Tapi berandai2 "coba kalo ga gini, coba kalo ga gitu" ditahan, ditunda sampai semua kesalahan diperbaiki.

Bottom line: regret less, decide more. Live by consequences without hate for my past.

Saat ini sudah saya putuskan untuk meneruskan s3, menikmati dunia akademis dan riset, mengambil ilmu sebanyak2nya. Selanjutnya tergantung Allah. Tapi saya harus siap untuk decide beberapa tahun lagi, tentang karir ke depan.

As for now, I can sit back and relax for a while ;)

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